sisterfrennn, the anxiety has been reallllly bad….
It’s been paralyzing, where it’s hard to get through the day. I sort of got a little spiritually lazy and have let the thoughts take control. It’s hard to know how to deal with anxiety sometimes.
Girl, not only will you get fat if you don’t go to the gym, but you will also develop the worse “fat” in your brain when you don’t stay on top of getting the word of God in ingrained in your spirit.
Truth is, even when we do know God’s word, life experiences can leave stains that seem impossible to erase. We see on social media that our friend’s mom died suddenly of a heart attack and now we fear that our mom is going to die of heart attack. or we deal with a really really bad breakup and suddenly the man we are dating now—we LITERALLY see his face morph into the other guy who broke our heart and deceived us. We deal with a cancer, or for me (Sickle Cell) and now we feel afraid all the time that we are gonna get more diseases and that leads to us being neurotic with our diets.
I dunno about you girl…but I feel physically and emotionally exhausted from ruminating on the bad things. I’m tired of going through an emotional roller coaster everyday… my husband walks out the door to work & I’m terrified he won’t come home because of a fatal car accident that happened to someone else’s husband. This is silly.
I’m tired of working in my garden with my mom, and worrying that these will be the last happy memories we have together.
i mean ENOUGH IS ENOUGH girl. it has to stop.
we need to learn how to deal with anxiety.
where i find peace
So I’ve started therapy. Well even before therapy, I recommitted myself to getting back in my Bible. Because no one can offer that “good good” (Good PEACE) like Jesus. Only he can bring THE PEACE that surpasses all human understanding. Only he can bring the calm that you really need. Go ahead girl…yell, scream, and then cry to HIM. Then suddenly you’ll feel exhausted —(because you got all that YUCKY-NESS) out of you…and then you’ll feel His peace. I’m telling you…it works.
Ok now…the therapy part. Girl I needed professional help, so I found someone. Today was our second session and she gave me 4 tips that I think might help you if you also deal with that bully…ANXIETY.
4 tips – how to deal with anxiety:
1. create PURE JOY moments: Set Aside 5-10 minutes of everyday where you are gonna get your PURE JOY.
Start off small and then expand. During those minutes, you get to hug your hubby and not worry. You get to really ENJOY THE MOMENT. Go in the kitchen and chop up an entire onion without worrying about your babies, without worrying about your fertility, without worrying if you’ll die of a sudden aneurysm. 5-10 MINUTES OF PURE UNINTERRUPTED JOY. You deserve it girl. You are worthy of it…and I am too!!!!
2. color therapy:
Saturate yourself with a color that brings you peace. For me, I love Yellow. Yellow makes me soooo happy. So sit down, close your eyes, and just saturate your body with that color. Really see it, take a bath in it.
3. personify anxiety:
Sometimes it’s hard to “attack” emotions but what if you could put a face and name to that bully that has been beating the sh*t out you? Maybe you could, “fight back” better …I don’t want you to create more tension in your body—so maybe try extinguishing him/her with love. But I really think turning it into a person helps you get a better grasp. I am excited to try this one.
4. journaling:
Write all that “yuck” on a piece of paper. I told the therapist that I was afraid to write down my negative feelings because “where focus goes, energy flows” “what you think about, your bring about” …she responded, “My thoughts are not predictions” …GIRL that one really helped meeeee out. Because sometimes I find myself “AVOIDING” because I don’t want to “cause something to happen” But that simple affirmation really resonated with me.
Ok girlie, I am with you. We are gonna be free. Wait what am I saying?
WE ARE FREE. claim it now.
Psalm 34 has been my rock this week.
Go look it up and let that sink into your soul.
I love you sissy.
Xoxo
Cierra
P.S. if you’re feeling anxious because of a breakup and need help moving on, check out my blog post The Best Way to Move On.
